Why Are We Addicted to Pain?
When WizardLiz publicly ended her engagement after being cheated on, she didn’t post a long caption about heartbreak.
She just said this:
“How silly of me to forget that I am the love of my life.”
It didn’t scream pain. It didn’t even ask for sympathy. And soon after, she added that the breakdown “wasn’t that necessary”, that she doesn’t really care anymore.
Was she hurt? Probably. But she left. She moved on.
She followed her own advice.
And somehow, that felt more radical than posting a soft carousel of healing quotes.
DO WE EVEN FEEL IT?
We always assume pain is deep. That heartbreak means collapse.
But… what if it doesn’t?
What if, sometimes, we genuinely don’t care that much?
What if walking away actually feels like peace, not loss?
And even more interesting, what if people keep performing sadness long after the pain has passed?
There’s this subtle pressure to act heartbroken. To post the moody song. To say “I’m healing” even when you’re already fine. Because being okay too soon can seem cold, even unrelatable.
But the truth is:
You don’t owe sadness to anyone.
EMOTIONAL DRAMA AS A LIFESTYLE
Some people genuinely hurt.
Some people process slowly.
And some? Some just love the drama.
They loop the sad playlist. Post the cryptic stories. Play the victim, because it’s easier than taking action. It’s easier to say “I’m sad” than admit “I stayed when I shouldn’t have.”
Pain becomes identity.
Breakdowns become content.
And emotional growth gets replaced by aesthetic struggle.
It’s not about judgment. It’s about recognising the pattern and refusing to stay in pain just because it feels familiar.
THE POWER OF MOVING ON
WizardLiz’s story wasn’t some tragic fall.
It was a reminder: you can still believe in self-worth while feeling confused, sad, or numb.
And you can leave without turning your heartbreak into a personality.
Not everyone is a mess.
Not everyone needs months of glow-up posts to prove they’re okay.
Sometimes you just walk away, feel what you feel, and go live your life again.
It’s okay to reject the pressure to constantly “heal” in a way that looks good online, sometimes self-care becomes its own kind of pressure.
If you’re hurting? Let yourself feel.
If you’re fine? Stay fine.
But whatever you do, be honest with yourself.
YOU DON’T NEED TO HURT TO BE DEEP
There’s no prize for suffering the longest.
No award for staying stuck.
And no shame in moving forward faster than expected.
Being the love of your life isn’t about being invincible.
It’s about not abandoning yourself, no matter how painful (or un-painful) the ending is.
So feel your feelings.
Or don’t.
Just don’t fake either.
